Do you have an estimate of how much energy you want/need to dump into the house? If so I can plug that into a spreadsheet to compute gpm, velocity, and head based on your 1" pex which will tell you if the pump's adequate. Unless you have a very efficient home that's not too large, 1" is pretty small for those distances. Which means to move more btus/hr you must increase velocity, which increases head, which increases pump horsepower.
Somehow get the temp of the water entering your underground and the temp where it exits to get the temperature loss in underground. I lose about 1* or less in about the same distance (2*F round trip including thru the HX when fan's off). The source of our boiler said 1" would be adequate, but I did the math and installed 1 1/4"... for our boiler which is roughly in your class, our install would be more efficient with 1 1/2". I was in similar circumstances 6 years ago and the guys here helped me sort it out. In my case years ago it was multiple problems I needed to address. But checking pump size is a start. The diagnosis process often involves going down the list identifying what it's not.
BTW.... Did you read the underground sticky? The pipe drain I used for my first underground was not perforated, but when I sprayed foam inside I was shocked to see all the tiny pin holes. When I dug up my first underground install it was all filled with water and mud. I was losing a huge amount of energy to the dirt. Yes... too bad you discovered this site after the fact, but you'll get lots of great help here.
I don't have a number for the estimated heat I need in the house. Here is what I have in the house currently: The furnace has 18 kilowatts of elements. The house by the way is just under 2000 square feet. It is a one and three quarter story and it extends over the garage. The living room has a vaulted ceiling open to a loft. I would have to do some figuring as far as volume is concerned. I also have a wood stove in the living room which we try to keep going most of the time. I want to use it less once I burn wood in the boiler though I don't plan to stop burning in the house. The attached garage is approximately 675 square feet.