What is the difference between closing down the air 5-10 minutes after reloading and closing a bypass? It's trivial. Most non-cat stoves I have owned can run from about 400F stove top to 700F stove top depending on how it's loaded, air setting, timing and the fuel choice. That gives one a fair amount of control. The thermostatic control on the original VC stoves also did this automatically, in a non-cat stove. The main advantage of the cat is longer burn time which is great. However that doesn't mean a home can't be heated comfortably with a non-cat stove. It's done all the time.
As I recall, you've never run a cat stove and are at home most of the day to futz with the noncat. The noncat at 400 is making way more btu than a cat stove with a little 400 degree hot spot on the stove top above the cat. You can manage to be very comfortable with a noncat. It just takes way more work and wood. I know, I have both and have used both to heat the same house.