Hi Rose Lane,
First, that's a great video. You are going to figure this out. The video is a huge help.
I think the biggest problem you are experiencing is that you are not putting enough wood in the stove and it is not reaching critical mass so it can run the way it wants to and throw off some serious heat. It is a tough stove - don't worry about the stove top getting pretty hot. I've had mine to 800 degrees and it is ok (I don't like it being there, but it's been there and it can take that heat).
Also, if it is a new stove, the firebrick probably has a lot of moisture in it that will take about one week of solid burning to really evaporate out. I go through this with my stove every fall after a humid summer. So keep at it and when that moisture gets evaporated out of that firebrick, it will seem like a different stove.
Lastly, your firewood might be a little wet - hard to tell. But you seem to be getting a pretty good light off on pieces you put in. You just need to put more in.
Your first load of the day (cold start) needs to be about 10 times that quantity of wood you are using. Use the 2x4 pieces about the size in your video to create a stack of wood in the stove as tall as the stove allows and as wide and deep. Load the kindling/2x4s front to back, a piece on the left and a piece on the right. Place some very small splits (about 1" across) of cordwood or kindling over them in one layer, then another layer of kindling/2x4s front to back, and some small splits over that, and keep repeating. Start that with paper and a firestarter underneath that stack and light it off. Keep the door open for about the first 5 minutes or until there is a good fire going in there (no more than 10 minutes should do it). Close the door. When your stove top reaches 350 degrees, pull the air lever out 25%. When it reaches 400 degrees, pull it out 50%, when it reaches 550 degrees, pull it out 75%. Leave it there and let it burn - you should see a lot of secondary combustion. If not, it's because your wood is too wet. But I think you will be fine with this approach as your first fire and you'll see some secondaries, but you have to pull the air lever out to get the secondaries (and to get the heat - the heat is in the secondaries and the gases from the wood).
Then, let that first fire burn down to coals. You want to reload when there is about 2 cups of coals (just coals - not unburned wood) and the stove top is about 300 degrees. Rake the coals forward into the front half of the stove and create a level layer of coals. Create a trench in the middle of it (front to back) for the air to flow from front to back after you load it up. Then, fill the stove 3/4 full with wood splits - this should mean about 5 or 6 splits 4" or so on a side. Try to stack it so that there is a little room between what is in back and what is in front. It helps to use a flat piece in the front bottom to hold a log on top. You should probably buy some elbow length welder's gloves at your local hearth store to stack the wood in the stove with. Once stacked on top of the coals, close the door almost all the way but leave it open a crack until flames get going. When you see good flames in the firebox, close the door all the way (handle down). When stove top reaches 400 degrees and there are good flames, pull air control out 25%. When stove reaches 550 degrees (and good flames) pull air control out 50%. When stove reaches 600 degrees or 10 minutes later, pull air control out to 75%. You should see good secondaries at 50% and 75% air. If the flames die out, push air back in 25% and wait 5 or 10 minutes for flames to return vigorously and then pull air out 25% more again. If you wood is good and dry, you should be able to get the air control out 100% and let it cruise for a couple of hours at 500 to 600 degrees stove top. If your wood is slightly wet, then you might struggle to get to 500 degrees with air control between 50 and 75%. If wood is really wet, you may struggle to get past 25% air control and 500 degrees.
As your firebrick and wood gets drier, you will need to modify the instructions I gave above by turning down the first faster at lower temperatures. You'll get the feel of it in no time. The key is to get a sustained secondary combustion.
So, to summarize:
- You need a lot more wood
- Keep at it - you need to drive the moisture out of the firebrick
- Get to know your air control and how the fire responds to it.