I've had the same stove for quite a while now. I use a probe type thermometer in the stove pipe to determine when and how much to regulate the damper. I also have a stove top gauge, but generally use it for reference only, and for determining if I'm ever nearing an overfire condition.
Startup from a cold start goes something like:
Damper open, side door slightly propped open and light
Probe goes to 4- 500
Side door closed
Probe fluctuates, heads back to 500
Damper closed to nearly shut
Stove is left in that condition for the duration. Watch the probe for a bit to make sure the fire has caught hold enough to be able to leave it alone. Amount of heat needed determines when to add more fuel.
Dry wood allows the temps to rise to operating temps quickly, 15min to shut the door, 5-15 to shut the damper. Usually 20-30min to get everything stabilized enough to walk away. Wet wood, you may need to watch and adjust for a long time. It pays to have dry wood.
Reloading a warm stove means all of that is cut way back, sometimes to nothing at all - throw a couple splits in and walk away, or maybe not - experience will tell working with your draft, wood quality etc.
Probe temp of 4-500 can vary lower, if your willing to watch the process closer to make sure it doesn't drop below the dreaded 250-300 mark. I usually just ramp it up fast, start shutting it at 4-500 , so I can move on. You want the stack temps to get beyond that 250-300 mark as quick as possible to prevent creosote condensing.