Your convection blower is the one I was wondering about it moves heated air through the stove and into the room. if it isn't turning or the convection air path is blocked the stoves sides will get quite hot as the stove is not having the correct amount of heat removed by the heat exchanger and sent into the room.
There are two complete air pumps in operation with a pellet stove, both must be operating properly to have the stove running normal.
The fire in the stove should reduce in size provided the esp is good, clean, connected, and the dip switches are set correctly as the stove reaches its preset settings.
put a new esp in,,, no change, still overheating. put digital snake camera thru airways, no blockages, cleaned flue pipe 4 times.