A lot has happened since I started to write this, so much of this might no longer help.
This is a hard one to follow, but for what it's worth. First, I am not a professional, just a home experimenter, offering advice based solely on my experience. I always consult pros (and pay for the advice) if danger to me, others, or property may be present. That is true, here, so, Moose, take the benefit of my experience for what it's worth but rely on my experience solely at your risk.
It seems to me that Moose wants to retain an operable oil burning boiler but add a new wood burning boiler which will be the primary heat source, with a fall back to oil if needed or wanted. So, this probably should be a parallel hook-up with the hot output of the WB going to a T on the cold return of the OB. The other port on the T is the cold return from the heating zones. The hot output of the OB also should be a T, with one port going to the cold return on the WB and the other port to the heating zones. For Moose's purposes, the aquastat on the OB either is disabled or set high so that it will not fire the OB so long as the WB is supplying all needed heat. If disabled, it would need to be reconnected when the oil burner is placed back in service.
The aquastat on the WB is set as normal, often on at 160 (make on rise). This aquastat will turn on a circulating pump on the WB to circulate hot water in a loop through the OB. If system water temp falls below the differential point on this aquastat, the circulating pump will turn off. This would happen as the fire in the WB goes out or heat demand depletes the system. This aquastat could be one that clamps onto the hot water out on the WB (but another issue here discussed below).
Draft/fire control on the WB is a different issue. I don't have an immediate suggestion here, but on my boiler I manually turn on the draft fan when I fire the boiler, the fan operates until boiler water temp reaches 190, then the fan shuts off; fan comes back on at about 180, and this cycle continues until the wood burns out. When boiler water temp falls to 140 the draft fan shuts off, the assumption being that the fire has burned out. The control to do this was part of my boiler's control panel.
The heating zones operate off the OB loop. Assuming one heating zone, this zone could operate with a line voltage thermostat which turns on a separate heating zone circulating pump. This pump draws from the T on heat out of the OB and returns to the T on cold return of the OB. A similar arrangement can handle multiple zones with zone valves (and perhaps balancing valves).
The WB also should have an overheat loop in which to dump excess heat. I suggest a separate aquastat that fits into a well in the WB and is wired in parallel with the regular WB aquastat as well as operating a relay in parallel with the zone thermostat to turn on the heating zone circulating pump. The overheat aquastat might be set at 200 (make on rise). If the overheat temp is reached, both pumps start to allow heat dissipation. This works until there is a power failure and the WB is in full burn. Although the draft fan will go out, temps still can rise. and I suggest a separate gravity fed dump loop directly off the hot water out of the WB. To keep this from operating all the time, I suggest a normally open solenoid valve on this line. In other words, so long as power is available, this valve is closed and the overheat loop does not function. On power failure, this valve opens and the gravity fed overheat loop operates. Sizing of this loop I understand should be at least 15% of the BTU output of the wood boiler.
Now, the other issue mentioned above as to the WB. For this boiler to operate efficiently its water should be kept hot and cold water should not be fed into the cold return, except when the boiler is first heating up. This requires a thermostatic mixing valve on the hot water out of the WB. All hot water on initial firing (actually, not very hot), is returned directly to the cold water return of the WB. As the water heats, this valve gradually closes and hot water is diverted to the hot supply line for the heat zones. Return water then also goes through this valve, and the valve mixes hot water directly from the boiler with the cold return water so that warm to hot water always is returning to the boiler, resulting in high boiler efficiency.
On my boiler I have a surface aquastat on the return line to the boiler AFTER the thermostatic mixing valve. This is the aquastat mentioned in the second paragraph above. I set this to come on at 150. The return line to this point is operating on gravity, hot water out, through the mixing valve, and right back into the cold return. Because of this gravity feed, the aquastat comes on quite quickly, turning on the WB circulating pump. But as stated, initially all of the output of the boiler is fed right back into the boiler by the mixing valve until the boiler fully heats, then the mixing valve starts to close, diverting hot water into the heat zones. As the whole system comes up to temp, the mixing valve closes more and more, until potentially diverting all output into the heat zone.
Hope this helps. You have quite a project on your hands.