Flatbedford said:I'd love to figure out how to do it. I work in the New York City and live in the suburbs. I would give up a lot to never have to set foot in NYC again and live in the country. I just have to get the whole family on board with me. My wife and I both want it, we just have to decide how badly we want it.
I think this is the jist of the problem for most of us. When I and the wife made that decision, it took us a couple of years to get all the duckies in a row. Then we made the plunge, and so far, it's going pretty well. I sometimes miss being able to go to the store 5 miles away, but it used to take us 20-25 minutes to do that in the city. Here, it's 35 mile ride, yet only takes about 30-35 minutes and the ride is through the country. Yeah, that's better.
Elec. use is down to about 400 kwh/month (and is less in the summer), nat. gas is down to about 25/month, vehicle use is way down. Gas use is due to the firewood thing, but still overall less. I'm outside a LOT more. It's a real lifestyle change, and we wouldn't go back if you payed us to.
We've got 8.5 acres, and just purchased (last year) about 2.5-3 more across the road from us at a tax sale (VERY cheap).
We'd actually like to be farther out with more land, but we're fine right here unless someone drops a crapload of money on us.
My brother and I talk about this, and we both have friends who talk about doing it, but just can't let go of all their stuff, ....with the attending bills. I say good riddance.
Plan for it, then stick to the plan. It may just come to fruition.

I wouldn't be in a hurry to go anywhere either. We sound like we are at remarkably similar stages of "homestead" development. I'm finishing up a major kitchen/great room remodel (took out all interior wall, made one big room, added second stove, ...) and have some trim work left (making custom trim out of black walnut) and need to construct bult-in benches on the interior portion of an island. That's winter stuff - last night we were thumbing through the Miller catalogue picking out apple trees and grape vines - want to start an orchard/vineyard in the "upper 40" portion of our yard. The only thing holding me back is what the deer might do to my young trees as this area is not fenced in yet. I fear they might grow as bold as the ones you have to deal with!