How to Convince the Paranoid Wife the Pellet Stove Is Safe??

[SmokeyTheBear]

IMHO relationships where the man had the last work were back in the day. Today we don't roll like that!!

Which is exactly why I suggested showing the woman of the house how that lovely furnace actually works up close and personal.

Folks haven't a clue about the beast in the cellar and the only thing they know about the pellet stove is that it gets hot and they can see the fire.

Show them the fire in the belly of the cellar beast and they might calm down a lot about running the stove.

Ever see one of those oh so safe boilers glow cherry red or blow a chimney plug out of a flue?

 

[jeanine]

Which is exactly why I suggested showing the woman of the house how that lovely furnace actually works up close and personal.

Folks haven't a clue about the beast in the cellar and the only thing they know about the pellet stove is that it gets hot and they can see the fire.

Show them the fire in the belly of the cellar beast and they might calm down a lot about running the stove.

Ever see one of those oh so safe boilers glow cherry red or blow a chimney plug out of a flue?

Which is exactly why I suggested showing the woman of the house how that lovely furnace actually works up close and personal.

Folks haven't a clue about the beast in the cellar and the only thing they know about the pellet stove is that it gets hot and they can see the fire.

Show them the fire in the belly of the cellar beast and they might calm down a lot about running the stove.

Ever see one of those oh so safe boilers glow cherry red or blow a chimney plug out of a flue?

I agree with that, most people don't think about the furnace because its out of sight

 

[MX2]

We're having a bit of a warm spell here but I think the furnace is a good place to start. After all, that pipe running to the furnace with gas in it could be a potential cause for concern, couldn't it?...........

 

[peirhead]

All stoves are designed with multiple layers of safety features. Take some time to review the safety features of your stove and understand how they work......this should go a long way to alleviate your fears....probably safer than your microwave oven!!

 

[doghouse]

I got tired of turning off and turning on the stove. One night I just left the stove on. Wife wakes me up the next morning. "You left the stove on", she says. "Yup", I says. Never had a problem after that.

 

[MCPO]

IMHO relationships where the man had the last work were back in the day. Today we don't roll like that!!

Yeah I agree times have changed Jeanine ! One only needs to compare the divorce rates of those" back in the day" times VS the way folks "roll" today?

 

[Snowy Rivers]

Well now.

Being a female myself, I do not understand these fears that many of the girls have, likely because I grew up a country chick with fireplaces and stoves being the normal heating appliance.

I think that the reason is based in the fact that most heating units hide the heat source, such as oil, gas etc.
The furnace comes on, the warm air blows out the vents and its all pretty much hidden from view.

I these appliances burn fuel, have safety switches and other control devices.
Gas and oil burners can and do produce CO, so the worries should be across the board as to safety.

Having CO and Smoke detectors in the room with the stove as well as the bed room should be SOP.

We run up to three pellet stoves at once during the colder weather.

The past two weeks we have had at least one stove running 24/7
The past two nights we had 1 @24 hrs and 1 on until about 11 pm

As with any appliance that has fire involved, the pellet stove needs to be installed correctly and maintained.

Read this as kept clean and the vent cleaned regularly.

The thing that worries me is the stuff I can't see.

A pellet stove thats run properly is safer than just about anything out there.

There are risks involved just getting out of bed in the morning.

Far greater risk of death or grave bodily harm driving the car than having the pellet stove burning all night.

We have run Pellet stoves since 1991 and have never had any issues that were really worrisome.


For Gawds sake, the electric water heater can have a t stat failure and explode

Nothing is perfect.

Tell your wife that Missy here says its OOOOOOOK.

I take care of our stoves and have all along.

Pellet stoves ROCK


Snowy

 

[MX2]

Snowy-
Awesome, thank you!

 

[jeanine]

Yeah I agree times have changed Jeanine ! One only needs to compare the divorce rates of those" back in the day" times VS the way folks "roll" today?

I am not a advocate of divorce, I just believe both opinions (husband and wife) are equally important

 

[saladdin]

I am not a advocate of divorce, I just believe both opinions (husband and wife) are equally important

But they're not. Each has their own strength. Lots of couples have one person that handles the finances because the other one says "I don't understand it or I'm no good with money." We play off each other and just like any basketball team there is someone that can score, a different person that defends better and someone that can pass. Men and women are not equal. We are completely different, with different skill sets.

I handle the money because wife admits she is a "spender". She has thanked me hundreds of times saying "I would not have anything to show for working all these years without your choices." Because of me, no doubt we can look at retirement at 50.

If she says "I'd like to paint the room" I don't argue over colors because she has the fashion skillz.

I said "This pellet stove is the way to go." She said "Ok, I'd like this style, hearth color and prefer it installed on this wall." Deal.

If I couldn't look at my wife and say "This is safe" and she not believe me then I would divorce her. Everything I do is for the betterment of my family. She knows that and trusts my judgement. The moment she doesn't (or she with me), our relationship is dead.

This is not a matter of male chauvinism or "caveman" talk. Relationships require you to accept the others recommendation when they have the knowledge. That's as evolved as it comes. Whoever is the smartest IN THAT SUBJECT gets an larger share of input.

These stoves are safe. We know that from the research, learning about the design etc... Anyone who says they are not safe should not have an "equal" opinion whether it is a man and woman or man and man or woman and woman or man, woman and her hot college girlfriend.

 

[jeanine]

But they're not. Each has their own strength. Lots of couples have one person that handles the finances because the other one says "I don't understand it or I'm no good with money." We play off each other and just like any basketball team there is someone that can score, a different person that defends better and someone that can pass. Men and women are not equal. We are completely different, with different skill sets.

I handle the money because wife admits she is a "spender". She has thanked me hundreds of times saying "I would not have anything to show for working all these years without your choices." Because of me, no doubt we can look at retirement at 50.

If she says "I'd like to paint the room" I don't argue over colors because she has the fashion skillz.

I said "This pellet stove is the way to go." She said "Ok, I'd like this style, hearth color and prefer it installed on this wall." Deal.

If I couldn't look at my wife and say "This is safe" and she not believe me then I would divorce her. Everything I do is for the betterment of my family. She knows that and trusts my judgement. The moment she doesn't (or she with me), our relationship is dead.

This is not a matter of male chauvinism or "caveman" talk. Relationships require you to accept the others recommendation when they have the knowledge. That's as evolved as it comes. Whoever is the smartest IN THAT SUBJECT gets an larger share of input.

These stoves are safe. We know that from the research, learning about the design etc... Anyone who says they are not safe should not have an "equal" opinion whether it is a man and woman or man and man or woman and woman or man, woman and her hot college girlfriend.

I agree that we are different, and we do have different strengths, and yes one may handle the finances and the other something else. Somewhere along the line someone made a comment that the mans decision is the last word. I don't agree that anyone should be in total control, its like saying this is what I am doing and if you don't like it too bad. I thought that was harsh, but I certainly didn't mean to step on anyone's toes. Maybe we should stick to the subject of stoves and pellets

 

[chazcarr]

My paranoid wife who's afraid of everything is being ridiculous about leaving the pellet stove on when we're sleeping or going to work. I thought this was the whole idea of having one. Anyone else have this to deal with? Any advice on how to convince her its as safe as can possibly be? Also, if anyone has ever heard of a fire from a pellet stove incident, please post it here. I'm guessing the newer models have come a ways in safety features. I know my Accentra has a lot of them. Thank in advance. B-

I'm a wood burner, not pellets, but I too had to convince my wife. The way I did it was to purchase one of these, they go on sale for about $45 all the time.
With that installed she could use her phone to view the fire and temperature from anywhere. Work, when outside, bedroom, etc...

Once she knew she could see the fire at any time she stopped checking after about 2-3 panic checks.
She will even load wood herself now after about 3 months of refusing to touch the stove. She has come a long way towards loving wood heat and will even call me if she sees free wood on the road somewhere.

I also installed a smoke detector and carbon dioxide detector in the stove room just to be extra safe.
two nights ago a fruit fly went into the smoke alarm setting it off at 2am. Good thing we haven't started burning yet this season.

 

[jeanine]

I'm a wood burner, not pellets, but I too had to convince my wife. The way I did it was to purchase one of these, they go on sale for about $45 all the time.
With that installed she could use her phone to view the fire and temperature from anywhere. Work, when outside, bedroom, etc...

Once she knew she could see the fire at any time she stopped checking after about 2-3 panic checks.
She will even load wood herself now after about 3 months of refusing to touch the stove. She has come a long way towards loving wood heat and will even call me if she sees free wood on the road somewhere.

I also installed a smoke detector and carbon dioxide detector in the stove room just to be extra safe.
two nights ago a fruit fly went into the smoke alarm setting it off at 2am. Good thing we haven't started burning yet this season.

what a super idea!!

 

[MommyOf4]

It`s 2013 and I`ve always let my wife make her own decisions. She got to choose her pots and pans, curtains, and I even allowed her to buy whatever lawnmower and snowblower she preferred to use. She even got to pick out her rototiller .

LMBO!! I don't make any decisions in which I don't intend on using LOL. I stay clear of it all and the hubby choose and use.

 

[MommyOf4]

I am not a advocate of divorce, I just believe both opinions (husband and wife) are equally important

I agree with you that both opinions are equally important, but sometimes we woman just don't know when to shut up. Yes...I admitted it. LOL

 

[jeanine]

I agree with you that both opinions are equally important, but sometimes we woman just don't know when to shut up. Yes...I admitted it. LOL

Yes I agree that we like to communicate lol, but this was a response to a post that the man should have the last word, because she was not comfortable with leaving the stove on all night. I just thought maybe it could have been delivered a little better, but I know we got sooo off track of the subject, and that I am sorry for.

 

[MommyOf4]

Yes I agree that we like to communicate lol, but this was a response to a post that the man should have the last word, because she was not comfortable with leaving the stove on all night. I just thought maybe it could have been delivered a little better, but I know we got sooo off track of the subject, and that I am sorry for.

You have to understand this forum is heavily male oriented. Males interact with each other in a completely different way than they would interact with females. I personally don't pay it any mind as I come hear to learn about stoves.

 

[jeanine]

You have to understand this forum is heavily male oriented. Males interact with each other in a completely different way than they would interact with females. I personally don't pay it any mind as I come hear to learn about stoves.

yup, I hear that and you are correct. I grew up in a house where my father was overbearing and obnoxious, so I guess it hit home a little, but ill take your advice and let it roll!

 

[MCPO]

yup, I hear that and you are correct. I grew up in a house where my father was overbearing and obnoxious, so I guess it hit home a little, but ill take your advice and let it roll!

So you want to paint all men with the same brush as you used to paint your overbearing and obnoxious father?
Evidently you don`t trust or confide in your hubby`s decision . I have to wonder why

 

[jeanine]

So you want to paint all men with the same brush as you used to paint your overbearing and obnoxious father?
Evidently you don`t trust or confide in your hubby`s decision . I have to wonder why

No that comment was in response to something a someone posted about the man having the last word and that he should make the final decision. My husband and I make decisions together and he is the best man I ever knew, so no to answer your question he is def not painted with the same brush. It was the attitude of that post that I was referring too!

 

[MCPO]

No that comment was in response to something a someone posted about the man having the last word and that he should make the final decision. My husband and I make decisions together and he is the best man I ever knew, so no to answer your question he is def not painted with the same brush. It was the attitude of that post that I was referring too!

I`m sure he is the best.
I should have pasted a smiley on that earlier post. You`ve been a real good sport on the subject. My apologies to you for my attempting to get a rise out of you.

 

[jeanine]

I`m sure he is the best.
I should have pasted a smiley on that earlier post. You`ve been a real good sport on the subject. My apologies to you for my attempting to get a rise out of you.

Apology accepted

 

[BrotherBart]

Oh great. Now we are drphil.com.

 

[jeanine]

Oh great. Now we are drphil.com.

LMAO!

 

[rayttt]

Group Hug!!