I haven't seen any "stay inside" orders, only "no socializing" orders. I was outside all day, both yesterday and today, and I can't see how I'd get anything mowing or gardening.
I few mayors in NJ had previously issues stay inside orders, mainly the city of Newark NJ, they broke up the city from the classic wards to sections by streets, the mayor then said if your in section one, stay inside unless its an emergency. This was quickly stopped by the NJ governor, the governor saying that local area's need to be on the same page as the rest of NJ, or havoc will occur, and people will just flood other open areas instead.
We have a storm blowing in today so hopefully people stay isolated from the rain and not in lines together at food stores and other places.
does anyone know where the list is for essential workers
Your employer will be able to provide that info, this is all different state to state, so your local news agency may provide better info, but in general it seems that all police, fire, ems, utility, food stores, gas stations, laundry mats, liquor stores, convenience stores, retail that sells majority of supplies for children under 5, banks, us postal, pharmacies, hardware stores, carry out prepared food, city transportation are open.
Be advised that all of these companies maybe open but they may have there own protocols / reduced staffing , limited services, best to check ahead before going (especially in more rural locations) and as always things are subject to change, sometimes by the hour.